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1 to 10 Scale

Filed in Advice, Wedding — July 18, 2017

I’ve been a little behind in blogging, so spent a little time today reposting things I had posted previously on Koru Ceremony Facebook page but didn’t have time to add here until today.


The 1 to 10 scaleThe next time you and your partner disagree about something, ask each other, “How strongly do you feel on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the strongest?”

It’s a quick way to communicate your position on the issue.

If you’re a 2 and your partner is a 9, then it’s not worth arguing about. Your core needs are not being threatened. Accept their position and move on.

If you’re a 9 and your partner is a 9, then it’s worth exploring further. Seek to understand each other’s position by asking open-ended questions.

Use the compromise ovals to come up with a temporary solution if you get stuck.

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KORU (kor-roo) is the Maori word for “loop.” For the indigenous people of New Zealand, the koru spiral represents a fern frond beginning to unfurl. The koru symbol embodies new beginnings, a new phase of life, renewal, hope for the future, positive change, personal growth, working in harmony, bringing people together, and being mindful of the good things in life.

At Koru Ceremony, we strive to personify these ideals and celebrate a new beginning through ceremony and ritual.

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