Gottman says, ““Happily married couples aren’t smarter, richer or more psychologically astute than others. But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other from overwhelming their positive ones. The more couples are able to understand, honor, and respect each other and their marriage, the more likely they will indeed live happily ever after.”
Honor and respect
Fondness and admiration are two of the most crucial elements in a rewarding and long-lasting romance.
Although happily married couples may feel driven to distraction at times by their partner’s flaws, they still feel that the person they married is worthy of honor and respect.
Enhancing your fondness and admiration isn’t complicated. Think about your partner’s positive qualities. What do you appreciate about them? What do you cherish?