Inside jokes
Couples who laugh together last together.
Humor is a powerful repair technique. It can lower the tension of an argument, reduce the division between you and your partner, and remind you that you’re human.
A well-timed inside joke can shift the focus away from your fixed position and toward your shared we-ness.
Remember that repair attempts are the secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples. Inside jokes are the most secret because they’re your secret.
Action of the day: Watch this clip of Dr. Gottman explaining how to create more shared humor in your marriage.
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